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  • Happy PRIDE 2026

    Liz and I went to Capitol City Pride in East Village, Des Moines, IA. We had a fantastic time! The parade was fabulous, everyone was friendly, welcoming and joyful. And we got some pretty great swag from Raygun and some of the booths and vendors. Overall and GREAT day! Read more

  • I Tried Online Dating

    Leading up to my surgery and during my recovery, I put myself out there on Facebook Dating. I had three reasons for doing so. I know I don’t owe anyone an explanation for the choices I make in my life, but I wanted to give a little background and context anyway. First, I simply wanted… Read more

  • Changing Shape

    If someone looked only at the statistics of my life, they might summarize it with a short sentence: three marriages, three divorces. Numbers are tidy that way. They flatten years of love, struggle, growth, and change into something that looks like 1 simple fact from the outside. But real relationships are not tidy. They are… Read more

  • The Feeling Of Being Loved

    Can you share a positive example of where you’ve felt loved? Back in 2008, I met a man named Jason. We found each other online during a strange pause in my life—right after I broke my foot. He lived in the same town, knew some of the same people. Our paths had circled each other… Read more

  • The Truth About Sex

    No one told me the truth about sex before I had a lot of sex… Not the kind of truth that slides into schoolbooks or locker room talk or gets whispered at sleepovers under half-drunk breath. I had to live it. I had to wake up in someone’s bed with my soul scraped thin and… Read more