intimacy

  • Here’s The Real Tea

    Things have officially gotten out of hand. I’ve written here about my experiences with dating apps. I’ve written about my most recent attempt at a relationship. And up until now, I’ve been very careful about how I’ve told those stories. Careful with people’s feelings. Careful not to sound angry. Careful to soften things. I’m tired… Read more

  • Changing Shape

    If someone looked only at the statistics of my life, they might summarize it with a short sentence: three marriages, three divorces. Numbers are tidy that way. They flatten years of love, struggle, growth, and change into something that looks like 1 simple fact from the outside. But real relationships are not tidy. They are… Read more

  • The Feeling Of Being Loved

    Can you share a positive example of where you’ve felt loved? Back in 2008, I met a man named Jason. We found each other online during a strange pause in my life—right after I broke my foot. He lived in the same town, knew some of the same people. Our paths had circled each other… Read more

  • How To Love A Hippie

    To love a hippie is to take a walk into a soul’s garden and stop to smell the flowers. It’s early morning sunshine stretching across a bed tangled with “I love you’s” and the soft gasps of dreams. To love a hippie is to escape from the mundane into a world that is magical—seeing the… Read more